Thursday, May 3, 2012

but before I do that

OK, so I posted this morning that I'll be in the 'Keys for the weekend, but before I do that, I must post a question that has been bothering my soul ever since the weather started getting warmer here in the 'Ville.

Ladies, why must some of you wear a painfully tight garment on the upper and lower halves of your bodies?

If you have a rockin' body, and you absolutely must let the world know, can't you at least pick a half to highlight on any given day and be content to let the other half breathe? I truly don't understand the-ultra-fitted-tank-with-spandex-skirt look.

I understand that some of you have the bomb-diggity legs. And you have a right to your mini skirts. But really? Pairing a tube top with it? Please.

I have a husband. My husband has eyes. He also happens to be male. I am a pregnant, and don't have a lot happening for myself physically.....actually, I do. I have a lot happening, but most of it ain't pretty. Can you do me a favor, please, and at least be selectively revealing?

I'm not asking for tunics and wide leg jeans. I'm just asking for moderation.

Over and out,

B

11 comments:

  1. Ah, yes. Lack of modesty may not be a problem only in the 'ville, I'm afraid. Some additional wisdom from other wise women and, of course, the Word:

    “Modesty is much more than a dress code; it’s about the heart beneath the clothes we wear. Again quoting my dad: ‘Any biblical discussion of modesty begins by addressing the heart, not the hemline.’” - Nicole Mahaney Whitacre

    1 Tim 2:8-10 tells us that we should focus on adorning ourselves with good works. It does not mean that we can't wear lovely clothes or jewelry, but that our beauty comes from a heart focused on worshipping and serving God.

    And you are correct, we need to guard ourselves and speak truth to one another when it comes to modesty. And one reason we do this is to protect our men, who we should view as our brothers (even considering our husbands that way).

    Trust and believe, my beautiful preggo - you are more lovely and radiant carrying life than ever and becoming the mother of N.'s child is making and will continue to make you even more beautiful to him. I am sure he would agree with me. :) I'm willing to bet he's told you that, but you're having a hard time believing it in your preggo state (which I know from experience). Proverbs 31:30 - Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

    Love you bunches, momma! Thanks for bringing up the subject!

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    1. Preach, sister! The most recent anon thinks it's solely our men's responsibility to keep their eyes from straying. A popular and sad and widely-held opinion, I assume.

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  2. Bahaha-
    You're the best! Hah...seriously though my thoughts exactly :)

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  3. I guess I find this kinda ironic since last summer you posed in a bikini in our local paper...just saying...be fair.

    You had/have a rocking body and were proud to show it off...

    http://www.c-ville.com/Image/(2321)/(C_magazine)/Csummer_4.jpg

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    1. Yeah, I actually really regret doing that. For lots of reasons, but mostly because it got me into an awkward sexual harassment situation at work. But thanks for the reminder! I can always count on the anonymouses of the world to call me out!

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  4. Yeah, I actually really regret doing that. For lots of reasons, but mostly because it got me into an awkward sexual harassment situation at work. But thanks for the reminder! I can always count on the anonymouses of the world to call me out!

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  5. It's not other women's job to keep your husband's eyes from straying. If he has that problem, then it's his issue, not other women. And if he doesn't have that problem and you're just being unnecessarily jealous, then it's judgemental and rude. Women should be able to, and are able to, dress the way they want and the way they feel comfortable.

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    1. You and I disagree fundamentally on this issue, so it's not even worth moving forward with the specifics. Thanks, though, for your thoughts!

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    2. Brett Baker's sister.May 16, 2012 at 4:28 PM

      Ay yo Anonymous that posted at 10:55, point is that cover up, don't walk around like you wanna get laid. Charlottesville is a professional city. My sister is simply saying be professional. I'm sure if you had/ have a boyfriend or husband you would feel the same.

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    3. LOL at the abject misogyny directed at women by women. "Women should be able to, and are able to, dress the way they want and the way they feel comfortable."

      How dare you disagree with that basic tenet. No really, how dare you? If you are insecure about where your husband is looking while you are pregnant, then that is fundamentally a (huge) problem in your relationship and absolutely not a reason for some other (attractive) woman (who has put lots of energy into making her body look good) to "cover up" to assuage your insecurities or your husband's wandering eyes. Seriously, ugh. And your sister's comment is even worse.

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  6. What I disagree with, fundamentally, is the fact that I believe that it IS my responsibility to dress in a way that is respectful to myself, my husband and other people's relationships. I wouldn't dangle candy in a front of a child and then tell him not to eat it because that's just downright mean. It's the same thing, if you ask me. Why would I flaunt my body in front of another woman's husband and tell him not to look when I have the choice to dress modestly instead?

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